about me
From Crossroads to Clarity
Behind the “successful” exterior of career milestones and leadership roles was a woman silently struggling to balance it all while staying true to herself.
Growing up, I watched the women in my family ask for permission just to access household money. That imprint never left me. I vowed to create my own path, one rooted in independence, purpose, and self-trust. But life has a way of testing our promises.
In my twenties, I had to rebuild after a financial setback that left me vulnerable and dependent. I fought to be taken seriously in male-dominated tech spaces. I pursued motherhood later in life through fertility treatments that tested me emotionally, physically, and spiritually. And when a major health issue left me feeling dismissed by the medical system, I had to learn to advocate for myself loudly.
Through every challenge, I had to trust myself when the world didn’t offer answers. I had to ask hard questions, change direction, and choose myself again and again.
These experiences didn’t just shape my life they became the foundation for my coaching framework: the THRIVE Method.
THIS ISN’T THEORETICAL COACHING, IT’S WISDOM EARNED THROUGH LIVED EXPERIENCE.
THRIVE Method Mini-Overview
The THRIVE Method: My Lived Experience, Now Your Roadmap
T – Trust
I help you rebuild confidence in your intuition because I’ve had to relearn to trust mine.
H – Harmonize
My journey to restore balance across career and personal life guides how I support you.
R – Reflect
The questions that helped me rediscover my purpose are now tools for your clarity.
I – Innovate
The patterns I broke to create new possibilities become strategies for your transformation.
V – Visualize
My practice of envisioning new chapters helps you see your potential clearly.
E – Empower
The bold actions I took to reclaim my story now inspire the framework for your journey.
What Our Clients Say
Working with Brenda as my coach has been an incredibly uplifting experience. Her joyful personality and positive energy create an atmosphere of warmth and support that makes every session truly inspiring. What sets Brenda apart as a coach is her remarkable ability to listen without judgment. She Read More
Alice D.
Dallas, TX
Working with Brenda has truly transformed my professional journey. Her compassion and genuine care create a supportive environment where I feel my growth is not just possible, but inevitable. Brenda has a remarkable ability to offer fresh perspectives and provide practical resources that have helped me navigate Read More
Anna L.
Washington, DC
What sets Brenda apart is her exceptional active listening skills. She doesn’t just hear words; she listens with intent, picking up on nuances and underlying concerns. This ability allows her to ask insightful questions that often lead to profound self-discovery. Brenda’s critical thinking and planning skills are invaluable. Read More
Alicia B.
Dallas, TX
Working with Brenda as my coach has been a transformative experience. Her exceptional listening skills create a safe and supportive environment where I feel truly heard and understood. What sets Brenda apart is her ability to ask insightful questions that guide me towards my own solutions and realizations. Brenda’s superb research skills and.. Read More
Milette W.
New Orleans, LA
Why I Do This Work
Because too many brilliant, accomplished women are silently stuck unsure how to move forward after decades of living for everyone else.
Because I’ve lived those moments of doubt, reinvention, and awakening.
And because I believe every woman deserves to write her next chapter with intention, not default
How My Journey Equips me to Support Yours
I’m Brenda Lilly, dedicated to helping women rediscover purpose and passion in both their careers and personal lives. My mission is to guide you towards holistic transformation, focusing on your whole self.
With over 20 years of experience leading projects and driving transformation across various industries, I bring a unique blend of skills to my coaching practice. My journey, shaped by resilience and a desire to uplift others, began with witnessing the struggles of women in my family. This inspired me to empower myself and now, to empower others like you.
My expertise in leadership, project management, and digital transformation, honed through advanced education at prestigious institutions, translates directly into powerful coaching strategies. I’ve completed the Executive Women’s Leadership Program at Yale, the Thayer Executive Leadership Program at West Point, and other leadership programs at other institutions. These experiences have taught me to:
- Break complex goals into manageable steps
- Weave innovative ideas into practical solutions
- Prioritize client satisfaction in everything I do
- Design high-quality, user-focused experiences
- Foster effective collaboration and inspire teams
This approach has not only earned me accolades like the CIO Excellence Award but also enabled me to help clients achieve remarkable breakthroughs. For instance, I recently guided a mid-career professional to successfully transition into a leadership role in a new industry, balancing her career growth with personal fulfillment.
What truly drives me is connecting with women who feel unfulfilled or stuck. Through empathy, honesty, and a commitment to continuous growth, I help my clients turn doubts into confidence and careers into sources of joy.
When I’m not coaching, you’ll find me volunteering at my twins’ school, trying out new recipes to share with friends and family, or practicing Pilates. I’m passionate about continuous learning, whether it’s exploring new cultures through travel or diving into home improvement projects. These activities not only fuel my creativity but also keep me grounded and connected to my community.
Ready to start your transformation? Let’s connect and craft your unique path to a fulfilling career and life. Because it’s never too late to pursue the future you deserve – in every aspect of your life.